Duality

This little girl is so complex. One moment she is just the most perfect child, sweet and easy; she gives big smiles, hugs and kisses. When you cough or make a sad face she comes up and says "okay, mommy?" She shares her toys and food and likes to play, "Mommy's turn, Daddy's turn, Yaya's turn" She is amazing and her heart burst our of her chest with love and sweetness and I realize that we-must-be-doing-something-right. But then there is her other side, the one where you think what-am-i-doing-wrong? She throws her body on the floor, kicks her feet, screams and throws an all out tantrum, for some reason, most of the time one I can't figure out. These tantrums have become so common now and I am not sure I know how to handle it. I am so in love with her, her little body, scraggly hair, and button nose. I just don't know what to do about the fire burning in her. The instantaneous change of mood is overwhelming. I'll just keep loving her with every ounce of my body and try to be patient with her, as hard as it is first thing in the morning when she wants to take off her pajamas and then changes her mind half way though the process. She isn't sure weather she wants to put them back on, stay half undressed or take them off;so she has a melt down on the changing table, kicking and screaming (like this morning). I managed to get the pajamas off but then putting on clothes was a whole other battle. She wanted to put her shoes on first then her pants and didnt want it any other way. It was very challanging but it is so worth it when she smiles.